One of the many truths that have played out to me over the client-coaching years is that what we judge in another person, we deepen and strengthen in ourselves.

And there is no better example than judging for JUDGEMENT itself. It’s a common scenario for someone to take great issue with the judgement of others in their circle – only to notice just how judgemental they themselves can be and are being!

For leaders and managers especially, this is a useful truth to bring into awareness, as we look to develop powerful leadership qualities:

If I judge JUDGEMENT in others, I deepen my own sense of judgement. As a leader, I want to let go of that judgement, so I can cultivate its opposite: ACCEPTANCE.

If I judge SUPERIORITY in others, I deepen my own sense of superiority. As a leader, I want to let go of that superiority, so I can cultivate its opposite: HUMILITY.

If I judge TRYING in others, I deepen my own sense of trying. As a leader, I want to let go of that trying, so I can cultivate its opposite: COMMITTED.

If I judge VICTIM in others, I deepen my own sense of victim. As a leader, I want to let go of that victim, so I can cultivate its opposite: OWNER.

If I judge REACTION in others, I deepen my own sense of reaction. As a leader, I want to let go of that reaction, so I can cultivate its opposite: CREATION.

Judgement vs. Acceptance. Superiority vs. Humility. Trying vs. Committed. Victim vs. Owner. Reaction vs. Creation.

Which other leadership quality contrasts can you identify in you and your leadership style?

And which judgements of the undesirables are you willing to let go of, so you can foster more of its desirable opposite?

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